Since October, I’ve lost a bit of weight, and it has not been remotely intentional. I was busy/overwhelmed with work, and was also a bit overwhelmed with life.
I have made some significant changes in my life, including dramatically changing my work schedule, and also addressing my mental health, as I felt this was extremely necessary. Both of these changes are paying off in a huge way, both for my mental and physical health, and I am noticing a tremendous difference. I am extremely excited, and feel like this is a new beginning for me.
While my goals are usually predominately performance and health-related, I’m aiming to gain a bit of weight as I feel much more athletic, powerful, confident, and healthier at a slightly heavier weight, so that’s what I am doing.
I have mentioned my goal to some people, and have received some extremely unsupportive responses, including: ‘’why would you want to get any bigger,’’ ‘’you are so lucky you can eat anything you want (this isn’t true),’’ ‘’you look better thin,’’ ‘’I liked the way you looked years ago’’ (a few years after my car accident when I had not been able to train properly and had lost all of my muscle, I was in extreme physical and mental distress, and none of my clothes fit). These are just a few of many unsupportive responses I’ve received.
I am sharing this publicly as my goal is relevant to many people. I’m sure that some people can relate to my struggle, and the responses I’ve received. I am also certain that the responses/reactions to my goal would be very different if I was a man.
If you are somebody who wants to lose weight, you have my full support. If you are somebody who wants to gain or maintain weight, you have my full support. If you are somebody who has no aesthetic goals, you have my full support.
In short, even if you don’t share the same goals, and even if you do not understand them, be supportive, respectful, and kind.